The “L” word

We were told to write on at what point in a relationship to drop the word “love,” but the directions ended there. Our brains were rattled and we debated how we might possibly tackle this. You see, this word has powerful connotations, yet it’s thrown around far too often.

To know when to drop the “L” word to your significant other, one must first know and understand the meaning of love. God is love and God loves us. Our love can be as among siblings or something more serious and intimate. That’s easy enough to think about (if not comprehend fully), but there are so many situations out there.

Then, a spark of genius and rebellion came upon us and we had the perfect solution to our dilemma. We decided that instead of writing on when to drop the “L” word, we’d write instead on when NOT to drop the “L” word.

So now, we give you four situations where the word “love” is overused, misused, or just used in an awkward manner:

1. In reference to celebrities you don’t actually know

“Who’s that on the radio?”

“Rihanna.”

“Oh, I love Rihanna!”

No, you don’t. You don’t have a personal relationship with her (nor will you likely ever), you didn’t raise her as a child and you most certainly don’t adore her art. Your “love” clearly includes not even knowing her (lovely) voice. You don’t love her.

2. In reference to an inanimate object

“I love my car!”

No, you don’t. Do you have a personal relationship with it? Perhaps, but it most certainly doesn’t have one with you. Or with anything else.

3. On a first date

“I think I’m in love with you.”

We think you’re a creep. First dates are between two people who are just starting to get interested in the other. If one has fallen madly in love after the first dinner course, they could be in love with two others when dinner is done. Or something.

4. At first sight

“Her, her! She’s the one! I can feel the love!”

We can feel your desperation. Love is a special bond that takes both a spark and effort to nurture. Love grows, and unless you have some sort of fantastic emotional growth hormones, it doesn’t happen instantly.

Love is truly a serious matter and a powerful word. Treasure not only the word, but the moments. Happy Valentines Day!

“A new command I give you: love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” John 13:34 (NIV)