God gave us sexual desires with a purpose in mind. And hiding from them goes directly against that purpose. Sexual desires reveal our most basic need for connection to him and others.
God wired us for sex, but our decision to remain celibate until marriage—and God’s apparent lack of movement in the spouse department—gets in the way.
Most conservative churches have a definition of “normal” that my friends and I can’t live up it up. It can leave us feeling confused and isolated, because most of us didn’t choose our unorthodox demographics, we just found our lives playing out on the single, gay, childless, artistic, or job-wandering stage. So, how do we navigate life in the church when we don’t quite fit in?
But here’s the thing: in the absence of belief in God, Western culture believes that the only solution to loneliness is romance. Nearly all movies, pop songs, magazines, advertisements, and dating apps beat us over the head with the constant refrain: without romance, your life is not worth living.
There is a longing deep down in my gut. It is infused with pain and passion. It might not be the right kind of longing though. You see, I am single. Because I am single, I can be found prone to spiraling down from complete contentment in the Lord to complete longing for compliments and […]
The Love and Respect Now author and blogger talks about her newest venture, The Illumination Project, a small group study series based on relationships You will only ever have two choices: love or fear. Choose love. (Jim Carrey) Regardless of your religious or philosophical leanings, as human beings we have two choices regarding our approach […]
The kind of man you deserve isn’t looking for a woman to complete his kitchen. While I’m sure the steaks need marinating and the fruits need washing, I’m also sure his momma taught him how to do that. The kind of man you deserve isn’t looking to shepherd you into sedated submission. He isn’t a […]
I am your single friend. You may know me as the girl you have in mind for your brother, your worship leader, your cousin… or your brother’s worship leader’s cousin. But before you plan our chance meeting, let me pass on something. Being single, I’ve observed my friends and family members who are married, and […]
I’m falling in love. But it’s not what you think. “I fall in love a little with everyone I meet.” — A wise friend of a wise friend. The beauty of that potential is starting to sink in. And as I sat across the table from some new friends this past weekend, my […]
I used to have this recurring dream where I’m traveling on a high-speed train in a foreign country. Suddenly I’m captivated by unknown scenery. I reach for my camera and zoom in, but it won’t focus. And the moment passes by. I’m left banging my hand against my pillow while simultaneously slumber-swearing. As single Christians, […]
For all you singles out there, if you think marriage will solve your problems, and that you’ll finally be complete once you tie the knot, I’m here to say this: think again. I have been married 14 years. And here is my story. I was a miserable single person, and I thought marriage would fix […]
He sighed and shook his head. “I can send the obituary to the newspaper that way, but they’re not going to print it. It’s not their style.” We were nearing the end of a long discussion of funeral arrangements for my father. My mother and five siblings sat along the sides of the table, their […]
I’ve often found myself feeling left out when it comes to church. While the church I attend does a pretty decent job at initiating mentorship and even has a young adults ministry, as a single 20-something woman, it’s easy to feel out of place. Ministry options for singles always seem to feel like a bit […]
OK. There’s a popular theme going on here. Since 26, Unmarried, and Childless it has been clear to everyone young singles are getting sick of being treated like there’s something wrong with them. They want to do away with the notion that life starts when they meet a pretty face and “settle down.” I think I’m […]
I’m 23, I just graduated from university, and I’m single. Many of my friends are married, and a few are starting to have children. And I feel as if I just graduated from high school again. You could say my life is in transition. And it’s true; I am in the middle of shifting myself […]