When I woke up, I went to see our new baby. I looked through a window into the nursery. One side of the room was lined with baby beds all full of babies. Except one bed was missing. And tubes and cords hung from the wall in a tangle, as if one of the babies had left in a rush.
In a culture so focused on immediate response and gratification, one of the most frustrating things to do is wait. We want to graduate college, or find a spouse, or get the dream job, and we want it all today. Sometimes it feels like those things we are so desperately waiting for will never actually come.
When I was a kid, each Christmas Eve at my house replayed the same scenario. After the candlelight service at church and the annual viewing of National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation, my older brother and I would pitch camp on his bunk bed and stay awake as long as our sleepy eyes would let us. Our […]
In my second year of university, I took off my purity ring. I had worn it on my right hand (it didn’t fit my left) for almost four years. It was something I had acquired at an abstinence conference, and because everyone else there was wearing one, I felt like I should, too. It wasn’t […]
As a new patron to a grocery store, I have realized that I have an incredible amount of power when I walk through the doors. And even more so when I get to the checkout line. Any sign of impatience (glancing at my watch, scanning the other aisles), and out of nowhere, a new cashier’s light […]
The kind of man you deserve isn’t looking for a woman to complete his kitchen. While I’m sure the steaks need marinating and the fruits need washing, I’m also sure his momma taught him how to do that. The kind of man you deserve isn’t looking to shepherd you into sedated submission. He isn’t a […]
We all have those friends. You know the ones I mean. The friends who get everything they want in life. Or — even worse — everything you want in life, without even really trying that hard. One minute you’re side-by-side at the starting line. Suddenly they have sprinted ahead of you and are now living […]
One year later, learning the same lessons Nothing has changed in a year. I am nearly 27, I am unmarried, I am childless (see what I just did there?) and I’m waiting for something big to happen. Again. I worked at a great place the whole school year. I had the opportunity to get another […]
Spring is in the air. And we all know what that means. Sunshine and rainbows. Did you think I was going to say love and marriage? (Wait, actually, those are contenders). But back to what I was saying. The coming of spring has given me pause to reflect on the year. And it has been […]
“It’s pretty normal these days for Christian guys to have sex before they’re married. You’ll be hard pressed finding a guy who is still a virgin,” my brother says. Somewhere along the way we had started talking about guys who sleep around. As if it’s normal talking about sex with your 22-year-old brother. I grew […]